Most of us make some sort of assumptions about people in our lives. We assume their actions are directly related to us, and we take things personally or defensively when we do this. This one action causes us to create our own drama and pain. But this is something we can eliminate, if we ask questions instead of assuming we know the answers. Most times we will find, that their actions were not even remotely related to us. They probably had absolutely nothing to do with us. Ask the questions you need, to clarify the situation. Once you begin doing this, you will find it gets easier each time.
Experience has taught me, that if I don't ask the questions...I tend to assume the wrong thing. Then I back off from said person, and only end up hurting them as well as myself. And for what??? Absolutely nothing! But this tends to be the natural human reaction, and one we learn from a young age. Strip that assumption away, and you gain knowledge through your questions. Knowledge about yourself, other people and then you learn how to head off all that pain you usually cause.
This may seem like a small topic, but it actually happens more than we realize. If you pay close attention to it every day, you will find it happens in small ways quite often. These assumptions may be small, but they lead us to make decisions incorrectly. If you make this change, it will make life less painful for you.
Hugs!
Jennifer
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