Each of us have been conditioned from a young age, to learn right and wrong from parents, school, church, etc... We were praised if we did the "right" thing, and reprimanded if we did the "wrong" thing. Those ideas of what was right and wrong were not our own. They were imprinted onto us from those that were trying to teach us. This is good in many ways, because we learn to not touch the hot pan on the stove...we learn to look both ways before crossing the street...
But what if you were told you were stupid for not getting good enough grades in school? What if you were told you weren't smart enough to even get into college? Those are not the right or wrong things we need to learn growing up, but rather someone's opinion. As a child, those opinions are stated to us and tend to shape how we think about our own self. That child grows up believing they're stupid, which shapes all their future thoughts about them-self.
Too often this occurs, and leads people to speak poorly about them-self. How many of us have said, "I deserved it." when something bad happened? How many of us have said, "It will fall apart and end eventually." when something good happens to us?
The single most important thing we can do is treat our self with love and kindness. Try changing your self talk, and telling yourself you love you. Tell yourself that you are smart, kind, beautiful, etc... This is the one way to begin feeling happiness in your life. The way to begin feeling love in your life. To begin feeling good, you need to believe you deserve that treatment from your own self first...and it will follow in the other areas of your life.
This is a long post, but it's been something I've struggled with my whole life. I'm learning how to slowly change myself, and hope to inspire someone else to see this too. I challenge you to let go of the opinions others have bestowed upon you, and form your own. Make an agreement with yourself, that you will love you...just as you are...perfectly imperfect!!!
Hugs!
Jennifer
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